Black Women Have Lips - Instagram Loses Its Damn Mind

Black Women Have Lips - Instagram Loses Its Damn Mind

Can I have a minute here? I need to catch my non-racist breath, remember my manners, and not lose my damn mind all over the place.

Woooooooooooossssssssaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...wooooooooo-saaaaaaaaaaa...WOOSA, DAMMIT!

Black Women Still Have Lips - And An Army

Black Women Still Have Lips - And An Army

The attack on Black women is coming fast and hard from every angle. If we say, “It’s not for you," it’s not an affront to you or your non-Blackness. We still want to be friends. We still consider you sisters — but you need to consider us sisters too.

3 Reasons I love Being A Black Woman

3 Reasons I love Being A Black Woman

“Other black-influenced dance trends that followed were the Charleston, the Lindy Hop, the Jitterbug, and the Twist.” Let’s add on to that with the Hustle, the Slop, and the Mashed Potato (AKA the Stanky Leg). 

But know this, we don’t claim Drake and his Hotline Bling mess. I don’t even know what that was, but I do know it hurt my eyes."

Your 2016 Women's History Month Soundtrack

Your 2016 Women's History Month Soundtrack

I think we can all agree that there is an incredible amount of power in being a woman. We run corporations, households, and our own glittery, mashed-up, sometimes-so-fucked-up-I-wanna-hide-under-a-blanket-and-never-come-out-again lives. And we do it as gracefully as we possibly can. And while we’re doing it, we have a soundtrack playing in the background.

Trump Supporters Terrify Me

Trump Supporters Terrify Me

However, Donald Trump... Well, that man shakes me to my core. Actually, not him per se, but the people who blindly follow him. The out-and-out bigots who will call me “nigger” just as easily as they’d call their buddy “Bob.” 

Dear Ted Cruz

Dear Ted Cruz

Now, I have to hand it to you: that’s quite the clever one-up. Donald says, “I’m gonna build a wall and Mexico is gonna pay for it!”

So you turn around and essentially say, “Donald, I see your bigotry and raise you... wait for it... XENOPHOBIA!”

I kid, I kid. That wasn’t your actual statement.

This was: “We need to empower law enforcement to patrol and secure Muslim neighborhoods before they become radicalized.” Nicely played, sir.

It's All In Your Head: Intimate Partner Violence and CTE

It's All In Your Head: Intimate Partner Violence and CTE

It is a known fact, both socially and medically, that constant blows to the head lead to traumatic brain injuries. This was the focus of Will Smith’s recent movie Concussion, as well as the reason the NFL is currently in so much hot water.

Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE) is real, and ex-athletes are killing themselves because of it.

But what if you’re not an ex-athlete who took blows to the head through the padding of a helmet? What if you are a woman who took repeated blows to the head, without a helmet, from fists, tools, and pretty much anything else that was nearby?

I Stand Accused Of Being A Diva

I Stand Accused Of Being A Diva

I have been referred to as a “diva” for as long as I can remember.

People mispronounce my name when I introduce myself and call me “Adiva.” My mother-in-law thought that was my name for the longest time. My best friend’s cell phone autocorrects my name to “my diva” whenever she speaks my name into her phone.

So yes. The universe has spoken its piece.

I'm Becky With The Good Hair

I'm Becky With The Good Hair

I did it. I moved to Arizona with our daughter.

I had already given him back the engagement ring, and I was just out. By the time I finally answered his calls, I was far away.

There were myriad reasons for leaving the way I left, and to this day, I don’t regret it.

Judge me if you want to.

#Lemonade: Beyonce's Visual Telling of Love

#Lemonade: Beyonce's Visual Telling of Love

We go through it all. Utter sadness, despair, hopelessness, rage, blind fury, searching of history and generations. All in the hopes of finding the pattern, tracing the line, and eating the bread crumbs on our way back to sanity so that we may never find ourselves back in that place.